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Why Me?

We have all been in situations when we ask ourselves:

Why! Oh why does it always happen to me! Just when everything was going so well then BAM!

I was doing everything right, I had the right intention, then why did it turn out this way? Our conversation to ourselves continue.

Its time like these when we need to remember this hadith.

‘Ata’ ibn Yasar related from Abu Sa’id al-Khudri and Abu Hurayra that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “No fatigue, illness, anxiety, sorrow, harm or sadness afflicts any Muslim, even to the extent of a thorn pricking him, without Allah wiping out his mistakes by it.” (Bukhari, 5318)

Alas! There is some consolation for the test we are in, but its also good to do Astaghfar and be reminded of this Ayat:

“Whatever of misfortune afflicts you, it is what your right hands have earned. And He forgives much.” [Qur’an, 42.30]

So does that mean that all trials and tribulations are a result of a sin? Or are these just tests from Allah to see how strong our Iman is , or to bring us closer to Allah?

I have been debating with myself and going back and forth between the above two explanations for quite some time now. I am no scholar, but I like to ponder upon life and this usually brings me to interesting conclusions. Conclusions that  you, the reader, may or may not agree with, but which seem to fit my life and experiences.

I ve come to the conclusion that whatever calamity befalls us, maybe a result of something we did that earned us the displeasure of Allah. It could be as simple as bragging  to someone (which shows pride which is a trait of Shaitaan) or something as big as being rude to someone and breaking their heart.

It may be a good idea, to think of what sin (even if very small in our eyes) we may have done which bought about these hard times upon us. It will humble us and bring us closer to Allah, when we kneel down in prayers and ask for His forgiveness. It will make us aware of our true position as His slave.

But Allah is Ar- Rehman and Ar- Raheem (The most Beneficent and Merciful). There is mercy even in his punishments!

Every trial may seem hard at the time, but let a few years pass by and when you look back at it, you will see that whatever happened, happened for a reason and happened for the best.

Only Allah can punish us and yet put something so amazing in it, that we will be glad of the punishment itself!

Take some time, look back at a bad time that you went through. Now think about what you may have done to earn it. Maybe you forgot to thank Allah for His blessings, or maybe you looked down upon someone. Contrary to what some may say, this will not push you in a state of depression, in fact it will make you realize that Allah blessed you by washing away your sins! And now think of what you learned from that hardship. Maybe a lesson which saved you from a bigger calamity later in life, or something that you can pass on to your future generations.

Every cloud has a silver lining, and for every Muslim, there is nothing but goodness in every trial.

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